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My mobile rang a "No Number" call at 12.45am, however I missed it.

I was hoping that it could be him, however, whoever it is didn't ring again, and neither did he/she dropped a text/voice message.

Then I told myself: It is not him. "No Number" could be anybody - parents, friends from overseas, even friends here who calls from their office always appears on my screen as "Private/No number". Even though the latter is out of the question unless someone works late in the office on a Friday night, I guess it could be my mom or a friend in Singapore. I know better than to give myself any hope (if there is at all), and when I realized the truth afterwards, I'd be so disappointed.

Last night, Rich and I had some alcohol together and chatted until 3.30am. Too bad Sha wasn't home, or it'll be more fun with more people. Despite having not talked to Sha for a long time ever since she has a bf and is hardly home, she and I talked for 2 hours on the phone last night. She asked me if there is something wrong with me and him (according to my facebook message), and I admitted. And then we talked... Anyway, Rich and I drank for completely opposite reasons: he drank to celebrate his good results (he got 3 HDs and 1 D for this semester! Dang... how smart!); and I drank because I am deeply depressed. And finally I told Rich what has happened to me with no tears. I think my well is so dried up that even though my heart is tearing, I cannot shed any more tears. Rich said that he has already sensed my depression so he hasn't come to bother me this week. I appreciate his understanding.

It's good to drink yourself silly sometimes because it makes you fall asleep. Honestly I wasn't even half wiped out... Just a few glasses of Jacob's Creek chardonnay pinot blanc, a few glasses of the Korean raspberry wine, and a couple of Korean rice wines ain't the way to knock me out, but I do feel sleepy afterwards. I slept soundly from 3.30am all the way to 1.30pm when my friend called and woke me up. I really love to sleep. Of course that is spoken from someone who works so much and be so sleep-deprived like me, but then, when I am depressed I love to sleep too, because that is the only way that I can escape from reality.

I probably do not know how to love a person. I've probably used a very wrong way to love a person. Loving someone doesn't mean possessing him. Loving someone entails some self-sacrifice and tolerance. Furthermore, I should have appreciated that my gift chose me as his beholder. How could I have dropped it? I should have known better than being my willful self and losing the gift when all I had wanted before was to hold it. So I do not deserve any sympathy. I'm mastering the way to live my life through without thinking of such pain and hopelessness.

I don't know what is the meaning of living on, however, I think this is probably a phase many people goes through at some point in time when they lost their first love. "First cut is the deepest" as we all say.... Hopefully in time I will heal, although I cannot guarantee when will I be able to get my cheery self back.

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i am sorry to inform you that the private number was me trying to get hold of you to check how you were coping.
anyway, after reading your posts all i can say to you is that i can feel your anguish and pain as i have been in that stage before. Just remember, time will heal all wounds and all wounds like leave scars of rememberance.
Clarice said…
there u go... luckily i never put any hope on anything...
guess, best friends are even more concerned abt you than your bf eh? haiz.. tat is a sad fact.
it may sound like i am oblivious to ur hurt, but i guess it is time you let go of him and all hopes to allow time to heal your wounds as well as to neutralize how you feel right now.
Clarice said…
i don't know how to... at least must let me be sure we are not together anymore. i don't know how to let go honestly. i want to celebrate our one year together, despite knowing that he's in sg and i'm here. i saw us in that one year at least... there are still so many things i haven't do with him... and i want to do with him...

i really wish he will pick up my call... it seems like my prayers are never answered. i've abused so many forgiveness he gave me... i just want him to give me one more chance... and now i can't take anything back. it's all my fault... i shouldn't have been so willful and so unreasonable.

i really love him, amelia. he probably doesn't even know how much i love him... i've always shown him all the bitchy side of me because i feel like i love him but he doesn't love me as much. and now i regret it cuz he probably shows me his love in a different, subtle way. probably i can't even say i love him if i didn't understand him in the first place.

all i want now is another chance... another chance to be with him again... i am willing to wait for him to calm down but i just want to hear his voice again...

somebody help me.....

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